Stop Smoking & Lose Weight with Hypnotist M. Vance Romane



Fit And Firm Forever

Chapter 1
Lose Weight Starting Today


The Foundation For Personal Weight Control

I have been helping people to lose weight for over three decades. During those many years, I have always found it most fascinating to research weight control programs. As I studied this field of knowledge, I constantly came across confusing contradictions. In this book, you will find practical techniques to help you lose weight, once and for all!

As one studies the field of obesity, it becomes apparent that, along with cigarette smoking, we have two of the most preventable causes of death. Each year 300,000 people in the United States alone die due to obesity conditions, and 400,000 due to cigarette smoking. My goal is to help you to control your weight, and at the same time to help you achieve a healthy body and mind, and to control your own emotions.

About the year 1900, one in twenty-four people developed some form of cancer. In the 1980's one in four people were diagnosed with cancer. In the 1990's, about one in three were being diagnosed with cancer. Just after the year 2000, it is predicted that one in two will be diagnosed with cancer at sometime in their life.

There are many different types of cancer, some of which have a much higher death rate than others. However, since our cells and all the chemicals in our body are made from what we eat, it is possible to have a lifestyle of healthy eating that will assist us to be healthier by boosting our immune system. Why not eat foods which keep you healthy and build a strong immune system as well as keep you lean?

In 1996, I was feeling very healthy. However a number of stressful situations entered my life simultaneously. I lost about eighteen pounds in a couple of weeks, which was a lot for me, as I was only about 5'6" and 150 pounds, before the weight loss. At the same time, although I had recently bought new glasses, I found I could not read the time on my video machine while sitting on my couch. Besides failing vision, I noticed my heart beating rapidly when I lay down to sleep. I was informed by my doctor that I had a hyperthyroid condition. Several tests were done at my local hospital, and then I was diagnosed with thyroid cancer.

Thyroid cancer affects more women than men, and it is proven to be one of the "safer" cancers. However, my physicians informed me that I had a very dangerously aggressive form of thyroid cancer. On Jan. 29, 1997, I had my entire thyroid gland removed. Meanwhile, numerous other stressful events continued to harass me. Believing in the "buckshot" approach to healing, I decided to go to San Diego for immunology treatment at the Livingston Medical Foundation. During my two weeks there, lab work was done to analyse my blood and other bodily fluids, and I received large doses of vitamin C, given intravenously. I watched videos and attended lectures to help me to understand cancer. In addition, their psychology department helps patients to understand and control stress, and their nutrition department helps patients to understand what they should and should not eat in order to boost their immune system. I had to learn how to give myself injections of B12, tumour necrosing factor, immune antigen and red purified antigen. However, to me the most fascinating part of the program was the nutrition and cooking department. We learned how to cook healthy foods to strengthen our immune system, to help make it difficult for cancer to gain a foothold.

After I left the Livingston Medical Foundation, I was told to continue the injections, the stress control techniques, the nutritional food plans and to continue to take the plant enzyme, Similase, and also Dophilis and Bifidus (Dophilis and Bifidus are now replaced by Enterogenic concentrate). In addition, I was told to continue taking large doses of multi-vitamins and vitamin C. I was also advised by my doctor at the Livingston Centre to return to the Centre once a year for a medical examination. It is important to note that this program was not two weeks of attendance, and then go home and forget about it. This program was meant to be a lifestyle change. Similarly, to control weight permanently and to enjoy a healthy life will require a lifestyle change.

Many people hope to lose weight by using some gimmicks temporarily, with the hope of losing weight permanently even when reverting back to their old ways. Weight control demands taking responsibility for our own health. It demands the inner strength and feeling that you realize there is no question that you have a choice to eat or not to eat certain foods. Long term weight loss requires a lifestyle change for permanent success. This lifestyle change must be based upon sensible eating and exercise, with occasional minor changes you can live with and enjoy for the rest of your life.

I once read about a doctor who researched 3,000 ways to lose weight and she found that only two methods work. You probably know what they are. They are less food (less calories) and more body movement (exercise). Many people will say "I hate exercise". However, they will delight in saying "I love moving my body". Therefore, one needs to find exercises or body movement that he or she will enjoy the rest of their life. Of course, interests may change over the years, but most any type of body movement will serve the purpose. Alright, we both agree that body movement and the right foods in the right amounts should bring weight loss, unless there is a physical complication for which medical consultation is necessary.

We know what to do, but can we do it? We say we want to be in control of our own weight, but are we willing to take responsibility to make our own good luck happen? Is there a magic button somewhere on a human being to force him or her to eat the right foods in the right amounts, and to force body movement?

I have found that the only way to assist people to develop a consistent and permanent lifestyle change is to strengthen motivation. What are the reasons you want a slimmer body? Why do you want to lose those love handles or that spare tire? Is it for better health? Is it to look more attractive to meet a standard that movies, television, and magazines proclaim to be the "best body shape"? We have seen too much anorexia and bulimia induced by such mass media hypnosis.

Do you want to lose weight to feel better or to have higher self-esteem? Is it to feel lighter on your feet or to fit clothes better? Perhaps you wish to lose weight to be a role model for your children. Many years ago, a woman came to me, and requested hypnosis for weight loss. Her reason to lose weight was inspired by her young daughter. Her daughter said "Mom, why can't you ride your bicycle beside me like all the other moms do with their children?" This woman said she was so embarrassed she did not know what to say to her daughter. She told me that the reason why she did not want to ride the bike was because she was embarrassed about the size of her thighs. In fact, she cried as she told me her story.

Now, do some soul searching and find out the strong, powerful, emotional reasons for you to be in control of your weight and fitness level. When you write down your reasons, write down and focus upon what you DO want, but never what you do not want. If you suggest an affirmation to yourself to avoid something, you will be reminding yourself of the very problem you are trying to get rid of. Please take a few moments and write down what you want and the benefits you will achieve.

My reasons to lose weight - benefits for me!

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Many people clearly know why they want to lose weight. They know the benefits of a more fit body, but, in spite of not having a physiological cause for the obesity, they still have trouble losing weight. They may use hypnosis, imagery, stress control, affirmations, self-esteem and assertiveness techniques, yet still have a hard time losing weight. This is likely due to the fact that the person has excessive stress or conflicts in their life that may only be dealt with by a trained psychologist or a very skilled counselor. Counselors have vastly different training. A good therapist or counselor should only work with patients in their area of expertise. If you have used every method you can think of to control your weight, but have not been successful, I urge you to see a trained professional in the mental health field.

It is important to understand that having an emotional stress or conflict in your life and seeing a counselor or psychologist is no different than seeing a doctor for the flu or a broken leg. In fact if this is needed for success, then the sooner it is done the better. Once serious stress and conflicts are reduced or completely removed, people usually regain a strong feeling of self-control, perhaps not known for many years.

I often advise my clients to write their positive reasons or benefits surrounding weight loss on a small wallet size card. I suggest that you do this and keep the card in your wallet. When you are in a bank line, a grocery line, waiting at the pump for your car's gas tank to be filled, sitting in a bus or airplane, or whenever you have a few seconds, read the benefits of having a healthier body and mind. Remember, like magic, we generally become what we focus upon.

It is stated by hypnotherapists that we have an outer conscious mind and an inner sub-conscious mind. In other words, although we may consciously want to do something, our motivation and lifestyle change will be far easier and more lasting if we place positive suggestions, affirmations, images and experiences into our subconscious mind before we fall asleep at night.

At one time or another, most people have suggested to themselves, just before sleep, to wake up at a certain time, and they do so, without an alarm clock. For many years, hypnotists, business people, Olympic champions, etc., have programmed their minds with positive affirmations and images just before sleep. The usefulness of this technique is unlimited, for we become what we think the most about. However, as the old saying goes, be very careful what you think about, positive or negative, for you will probably get it. For example, I believe that having a great fear for something such as a heart attack, cancer or even death itself may cause such an event to occur. Remember, "that which I hath feared has come upon me".

Chapter 2
It Starts At The Grocery Store!
Out Of Sight, Out Of Mind


Weight Control Is Different

Weight control is slightly different than controlling other habits like nail biting or smoking. You may cease biting your nails or stop smoking permanently and still live, but you cannot stop eating forever. Therefore, even though you may eat smaller quantities of food to stay alive, there is always the possibility that you may eat too much.

I will teach you the best types of suggestions to impress upon your conscious and subconscious mind during this weight control program. You will be steadily and consciously watching your habits in order to change them. This is not easy work. However, with hypnosis, it can often be remarkably easy.

Upon establishing a pattern, you will have to work at maintaining your new habits. Of course, it will be significantly easier once you have established better habits. Some authorities claim it takes from one to two years for the average person to completely reverse their habits and ways of thinking about food. This time for permanent change can be dramatically reduced with hypnosis.

Change Starts at the Grocery Store

Let's face it. The whole program must start at the market or grocery store. When I go shopping, I consciously try to avoid placing items in my shopping basket that are greasy, fatty or sweet. Occasionally I will "treat" myself to a chocolate bar or pecan pie, or something else that is loaded with calories, but this is rare, and seldom occurs during weight loss. However, after you have attained the weight you wish to be, a rare, but occasional "treat" may be permitted. Just before I go to the cashier in a supermarket, I usually look back into my shopping basket and search it, double-checking for "junk or garbage food". I will often take items back to the shelves, or just tell the cashier I've changed my mind on buying something.

If you live alone, it is easier to stock your shelves only with items that are healthy and nutritious. If you are able to convince others with whom you share a home to adopt new, healthy eating habits, your task will be easier, since each of you will be supporting and encouraging the other. If you cannot help others to change their eating patterns because of their lack of interest, there is no use creating tension-producing arguments. You will have to learn to eat the proper foods in spite of a lack of interest by other household members.

Habits are created by association and repetition. When I was young, we all bought a box of popcorn as soon as we entered a movie theatre. Now, I sometimes feel like having popcorn in order to enjoy a movie fully. Similarly, if you always eat in bed, while on the telephone, in front of the television, or at your desk, you are creating potential habit connections which may make you desire food whenever you recreate the situation. If you always eat while watching television, you may have developed a habit that creates hunger feelings, even though you may have already eaten. The eating-place should then become associated only with eating. This should be at the kitchen table.

When You Eat, Focus On Eating

It is important to be conscious of your food while you eat it. Nothing else should be happening while you eat, except perhaps a pleasant conversation. Even radio may become associated with eating. By enjoying the good taste of every single bite in a total way, by chewing the food thoroughly, you should feel satisfied with less food. Overweight folks usually gulp down food without proper chewing. This, as other bad habits, can be changed or unlearned. By chewing food slowly, and being in a relaxed state (i.e. not worrying about your personal or business life while eating), you will have greater salivation and it will be easier for your body to digest the food. Also, you will feel full with less food.

Eat Less And Be Trim

Make certain you have small quantities of food on your plate. Temptations will be reduced. At least in North America, most of us have been trained since early childhood to clean the plate or feel guilty. You can always get more food, but start off with a small quantity on your plate. It may be enough.

Another good tactic is to use small spoons and forks. This will make it easier for you to eat more slowly, and to chew your food more thoroughly. It seems like you have eaten more food if you use small utensils, and thus have to make more trips between the plate and your mouth. You will eat more slowly and feel full with less food.

Slim people often tell me that they are not very interested in food, that they have better things to do than to eat. They say: "I don't live to eat, I eat to live." You can develop this lack of interest or boredom towards food by externalizing your interests, for example, exercise, walking, swimming, finishing old tasks, starting new ones, or generally having more important things to do. Make a reference list:

More important things for me to do than grazing are:

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Three Meals a Day

Unless you have a medical condition that prevents this, you should try to develop the habit of eating three meals each day, at approximately the same times each day. These "sit down" meals need not be large, but you will be helped to break the dangerous snacking habit. If you continually eat at odd hours, your body will begin to feel hunger continually. Tell yourself: "I eat three meals each day, no matter how small."

Praise Yourself

Every time you resist a temptation to eat something you should not be eating, either at home alone, at a social gathering, or at work, be sure to stop for a few seconds and think of how proud you are of yourself. Develop a feeling of pride and accomplishment; the thought of success. Like an approving pat on the head to a good child, you will be rewarding yourself and slowly breaking and shattering old habits. Another way to reward yourself is to save up money in a small bank or a separate savings account that would have been spent on "junk food" in the past. When you have enough money, treat yourself to some small luxury such as a ring, a new watch, a week-end trip, or something that will give you happiness.

Those Last Few Pounds

During the latter part of your program, you will probably not notice too much weight loss. The last few pounds are the hardest to lose. BUT REMEMBER, you must continue parts of your program after you have reached your goal and your ideal weight. This continuing program is important for WEIGHT MAINTENANCE. Most people lose four to eight pounds per month. Again, slow weight loss is usually more permanent weight control. You create a more lasting lifestyle change over time.

Healthy Eating

You should become totally familiar with healthy nutritious foods. Your own physician or nutritionist will give you the best advice, and many good books are available in libraries, free of charge, to further expand your knowledge. One thing is certain. You can eat a lot of food and still lose weight, but it must be the right food, cooked properly. The sweet and greasy must be avoided. Avoid trimmings like sour cream, salad dressing and gravy. None should be used during weight loss. You may be able to use a little occasionally during weight maintenance.


When you are ready, you will lose weight